The Gift of Empathy

Happy day dear Blog Friends!  Today I have a new card to share and I have to say that as I made the card, I was swept with feelings of “real” empathy.  I say “real” empathy because in years past my naivety would allow to me to say that I understood how someone else felt when in reality there was no way I could really know how they felt.  There have been many “a-ha” moments spent once I have had the experience myself.  I’m sometimes embarrassed that I could even guess how one might feel.  One such time was when a co-workers dog passed away and couldn’t come to work, she was under the weather for the day.  I didn’t say a thing but I’m pretty sure I didn’t realize how devastated she was.  I never had pets as a child, but was fortunate to take in a rescue as a newlywed.  Many years later when she passed away unexpectedly
, I was w.r.e.c.k.e.d.   Looking back, I know I had not even been in the ballpark with empathy during my co-workers sad loss.  I was so glad when Our Daily Bread Designs created a sympathy set just for those occasions – today I used Dog Sympthy.  So many times people will say they were “just” a pet but I know otherwise.  We had “custody” of our daughters dog for several years.  She left her sweet companion with us because John had bonded with her and we’re certain that it prolonged his life.   On many occasions she came to warn me when he was in distress.

For my card I created a layered focal panel using Spellbinders™ Antique Frame and Accents and backed with the border from Spellbinders™ Damask Accents.  I used the wings from Spellbinders™ Home Sweet Home set, because I think the wings add a sweet personal touch and I love the tiny round tag.  I made these pretty little flowers for my last card using Spellbinders™ Bitty Blossoms — when they wouldn’t fit, I knew I’d be able to use them as a cluster on this card.

I seem to have this brown and pinky – peach colorway in my blood lately and I guess it’s because I’ve been making so many flowers.  Well, and it’s one of my favorites too.  I’ll be moving on to different colors – thanks for hanging with me through this phase :-)

Stamps: Our Daily Bread Designs,   Dog Sympthy
:  Glitz Design, Bazzill
Brushed Corduroy Distress Ink
Accessories: Spellbinders™ Antique Frame and Accents,  Spellbinders™ Damask AccentsSpellbinders™ Home Sweet Home, Spellbinders™ Bitty Blossoms
seam binding, Recollections Pearls, lace
Additional Ideas:
  Our Daily Bread Designs Card Gallery,  Spellbinders Blog

I’m hoping you had a fun and family filled weekend!   Sending blessings your way!

  • TerriApril 15, 2012 - 5:14 pm

    Beautiful card and saying Becca. My pets are still in their prime but I don’t look forward to the day they’re gone. I didn’t have children but I do have Furbabies, a girl and a boy.

    Ter ;)ReplyCancel

  • RobinApril 15, 2012 - 5:19 pm

    What a touching card! I need to make more pet-related cards and I’m glad you pointed me to Our Daily Bread Designs stamps for this card. I’ve purchased their stamps in the past and love the detail. I have several pets and it sends me into a tailspin when one of them dies. I also have friends who are pet lovers and so I always send a card. It’s just like one of your family, for sure.ReplyCancel

  • Eunice BrownApril 15, 2012 - 5:25 pm

    Thanks, Becca for another beautiful card. Our pets do become a part of our family and when they leave, it leaves a big hole in our lives, at least mine did when he died. I’ve had pets all my life but it wasn’t until I was much older did I truly appreciate their company and companionship.ReplyCancel

  • JanineApril 15, 2012 - 5:30 pm

    I lost my dog (Sadie) of 14 years—exactly 3 years ago today. I still think about her every day—especially on my drive into work when I pass the park that we always went to. As strange as this may sound, every morning I always say ‘hello’ to her when I drive past that park. Best dog ever. Love your card—it is absolutely beautiful.ReplyCancel

  • Ann robbinsApril 15, 2012 - 5:30 pm

    This is very beautiful! I guess we all kind of pick a color and use it as a focal point ~ I do the same thing. Lately all my sympathy cards are white on white. DOn’t ask me why. Just saw one and thought it was magnificant. I too know how people feel when they lose a pet “friend.” They do become part of the family.
    I really look forward to your posts (every day), I wished but wonderful and happy each day they come. God Bless.

  • FrancineApril 15, 2012 - 5:36 pm

    This car d is very pretty. It is full of details. I always like the colors and I am not tired of it.
    About an animal I understand how the lost can be hard, but I don’t accept
    when a dog is treated more then a human. I condidere I dog must stay a dog .
    merci Francine.ReplyCancel

  • Nadine IllingworthApril 15, 2012 - 5:47 pm

    Love the paw print on the tag. Great attention to detail. smashing card. Great colour.ReplyCancel

  • miblue1April 15, 2012 - 5:48 pm

    Our 17 year old dachshund had to be put to sleep as she had congestive heart trouble and was blind and deaf.It. killed me to do it but she was suffering so.I could not bear to own another dog.It did give me a new understanding for pet owners and their fur babies.Today when I suffer a loss I think of our sweet pup being in Heaven(I have been told dogs do not go to Heaven and I beg to differ)it gives me comfort to know my love ones are being met by our sweet dog who has been made whole and runs to meet them.your card is beautiful ….I so enjoy your blog and many times it has applied to my life as well as yours…thank u for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • GloriaApril 15, 2012 - 5:51 pm

    Thank you Becca for caring.
    Our little poodle Juliette passed from our care Christmas Morning 2012 at 5:30 AM.
    Our hearts are still hurting.

  • MardaApril 15, 2012 - 5:57 pm

    Love the card and know the pain of losing a furbaby and of friends losing their furbabies.

    I must ask where did you get the angel wings for this card?


  • Pam PApril 15, 2012 - 5:58 pm

    Another beauty Becca! I don’t think I would ever tire of those colors, they are my favorites.ReplyCancel

  • Pattie JnsApril 15, 2012 - 5:59 pm

    Pets are such a special blessing, because they give love unconditional, but so sad that many mistreat them. What a wonderful heart warming lovely card you made for such a time of loss. God has a special place for His creatures because He created them. He just expects us to love them and care for their needs as we love each other. Another part of the Golden Rule……..thanks for sharing……love the colors……..hugs and blessingsReplyCancel

  • Kelly LittleApril 15, 2012 - 6:04 pm

    Beautiful card, Becca, and now that dog is getting a little bit older, cat having difficulties after surgery, I truly do understand how others feel when they lose or are concerned about losing a pet. I am sure this lovely card would touch the heart of a friend or loved one that receives it. Gorgeous colors, soft hues and so much love put into every card you create. Thank you for sharing them with us.ReplyCancel

  • Becky GreenApril 15, 2012 - 6:07 pm

    Becca! This is ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE the pink & brown! No problems here! :) Are you going to show us how you did these flowers???????? I’m INTO making my own flowers here lately! :) LOVE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!

    I remember having pets pass away when I was younger and recently, just before Christmas, we had our sweet “Cherokee” put to sleep after having her for 14 years! She was such a SWEET & LOVING & PROTECTIVE & FAITHFUL dog! She just grew old & she was starting to have troubles…. I still remember her sweet face in the car as my husband drove her off to the vets. :( Our daughter REALLY took it hard! Even our other dog went through mourning for her. It is hard in loosing something who brings such fuzzy love to a family!ReplyCancel

  • Karen WallaceApril 15, 2012 - 6:10 pm

    Very pretty and yes it’s devastating to lose a pet. Beautiful card!!ReplyCancel

  • Jeanne ShipmanApril 15, 2012 - 6:40 pm

    Becca, your card is lovely and very heartfelt.Blessings and Hugs JeanneReplyCancel

  • Judy McMullenApril 15, 2012 - 6:45 pm

    So lovely…in thought as well as in execution!ReplyCancel

  • Lindyloo, South Wales, UKApril 15, 2012 - 6:49 pm

    Hi Becca,
    Well you must have been in my world today somehow. My daughter brought her guinea pig down to stay with me as she worked today, because he had been so bad last night. Well to cut the story short, he passed away while with me after struggling to even stand up. It was heart wrenching and my daughter was devastated, she had had him since a baby. I struggled all day how to tell her and although I broke my heart when he died (I’m a big sook like that) I couldn’t imagine how she felt when she came home from work.
    We all get so attached to our pets don’t we.
    I love your card today and you have used one of my new favourite dies, (which I have been using also to make Communion invitations for my great niece).
    Hope you are well. Hugs Linda xReplyCancel

  • Debbie OlsonApril 15, 2012 - 6:58 pm

    So lovely, Becca! Those flowers turned out fabulous too. I think I must be using card stock that’s too thick for manipulating, because mine are definitely not as natural looking as yours–love yours!ReplyCancel

  • kathy tApril 15, 2012 - 7:14 pm

    I am so glad you made this card and expressed how important animals are in a person’s lives. Beautiful card -thanks for sharingReplyCancel

  • Charlotte Schleue ZweigoronApril 15, 2012 - 7:25 pm

    Absolutely gorgeous!! You have commented before about your penchant for beiges and pinky tones. It is nice to see you reach a little farther but never worry about too much of your favorites. The details are always so different and fascinating… that makes your cards anything but “same old, same old”… color aside. Pets are wonderful, if we really expected them to be like humans we wouldn’t be able to count on their unconditional love as we do.ReplyCancel

  • MarilynApril 15, 2012 - 7:28 pm

    What a great blog article!! An a beautiful card. I love your colors, your embellishments and quote. I feel so moved after reading your thoughts on your blog, you sure are an inspiration!!ReplyCancel

  • monicaApril 15, 2012 - 7:47 pm

    Lovely Lovely card. I have been thinking about buying this stamp set for a few weeks now. This just sealed the deal. I am gonna order it.ReplyCancel

  • Claire SApril 15, 2012 - 8:07 pm

    Your words ring so true…dog owner! Beautiful card.
    Claire S.ReplyCancel

  • michelle frasherApril 15, 2012 - 8:30 pm

    i have just loved all of the cards the dt has/have created with this set. yours is so beautiful. just over two years ago we went thru a lot – our pet pig of 17 yrs. died just after Christmas, then my mom died in july of 2010 after a three year battle with cancer, then about five mos. later my big kitty of 17yrs. died on new years day and then 7 mos. later our 10yr. old black lab died suddenly. i cried more when my big “fuzzer” kitty and our dog died than when my mom died. maybe it was just the culmination of a lot of grief experienced in that year and a half. anyway our pets are our family. and i firmly believe there will be pets and animals in heaven. i can’t wait to find out.ReplyCancel

  • DiannApril 15, 2012 - 8:33 pm

    Just so lovely Becca = No matter what color way you choose, they are always beautiful. Would love to see some more videos from you soon. Maybe how you made the bitty flowers so soft? Thanks again Becca.ReplyCancel

  • Edna SiuApril 15, 2012 - 8:40 pm

    Becca, you are always amazing with your card, it is just another one, it always surprise with your new ideas and mix and match talent.ReplyCancel

  • Vicky SchmidtApril 15, 2012 - 8:49 pm

    Becca, I really like your dog card. A pet becames a part of the family. One of our dogs died while we were out of towm. I was so upset because I didn’t get to say good bye. Even now I get choked up thinking about it.
    Your use of colors is so good. Thank you for sharing your talent with us.

  • Linda CarsonApril 15, 2012 - 8:58 pm

    Quite lovely and quite thoughtful! I lost my best friend three months ago and my heart still aches for him. I think it always will.ReplyCancel

  • Dottie DavisApril 15, 2012 - 9:07 pm

    What a very lovely card with wonderful sentiments. It is so beautiful with the pink…I love pink! Must be we develop compassion by going through things ourselves….not an intellectual understanding but a heartfelt one. That’s the language people hear in our voices in their time of need. Trials take the “tin” sound out of our words. Have a beautiful day, Becca.ReplyCancel

  • RufusApril 15, 2012 - 9:12 pm

    Becca, gorgeous card. I really like the Antique Frame around the sentiment. Having lost “pets” that is one thing that I do know what someone is going through. However, until you’ve been there, you don’t really know what someone is going through. All you can do it try to understand and be there for them. Everyone is different, so how they deal with life and it’s adversities is different as well. But enough of being so serious…really like this one and can’t wait to see what all you’re working on in the background.

  • sheriApril 15, 2012 - 9:25 pm

    Beautiful card! I just emailed you asking what paper you used for your flowers. Yours are so soft and natural looking…I have Bitty Blossoms die, but mine do not come out as lovely as yours. Yours almost look like made of fabric. Would really appreciate it if you would share your secret. Truly enjoy your blog, and get so much inspiration from your work. Just lovely!!!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Carol LoganApril 15, 2012 - 9:55 pm

    Beautiful card. Pets are part of the family; I have had cats, dogs and birds over the years and always cry when one of them would leave this world. I miss them all.ReplyCancel

  • joannApril 15, 2012 - 10:08 pm

    This card is just beautiful… and the sentiment is so heart warming… just beautiful BeccaReplyCancel

  • Gail L.April 15, 2012 - 10:33 pm

    Very nice!
    I have the Spellbinders Bitty Blossoms, and my blossoms NEVER look like that!
    Love the colors!ReplyCancel

  • ChelseaApril 15, 2012 - 11:12 pm

    Thank you, Becca, for another beautiful card. You are such an inspiration!ReplyCancel

  • MaryannApril 16, 2012 - 12:07 am

    This is so gorgeous Becca, and I just love these colors too, so for me it´s only a pleasure to watch this phase here, and I even love it. Stunning work hun.
    HAve a wonderful day.ReplyCancel

  • Jan GarberApril 16, 2012 - 12:29 am

    You have such a wonderful wayof expressing what many of us feel, but cannot write down with such emotion. I agree that we can NEVER know how another person feels at a time of loss or any type of grief. Thanks for sharing this beautiful card and your thoughts!ReplyCancel

  • Caro PrescottApril 16, 2012 - 2:55 am

    Your cards always fill me with and delight you have a wonderful gift. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • Anne DaviesApril 16, 2012 - 3:46 am

    Becca, a beautiful card and beautiful thoughts. For me a house is not a home without my dogs and cats around. Welsh Annie xReplyCancel

  • Francie (Montreal)April 16, 2012 - 5:46 am

    A beautiful expression of sympathy and love. It is said that love is a four-legged word. I think it’s true. Your card captures this sentiment. Nicely done, as usual.ReplyCancel

  • CheriApril 16, 2012 - 6:03 am

    Another beautiful card Becca……..! My Jasmine (rescue terrier/corgi) died three years ago and I STILL cannot talk about this w/o bawling my eyes out! Sadly, I was so pained at losing her I decided not to get another dog, and I have had them all of my 60+ years……….they are definitely part of our family. Thanks again?ReplyCancel

  • Maryellen WebberApril 16, 2012 - 7:23 am

    What a touching card. I’m still getting over the loss of my very special
    cat, Scarlett. It’s been a year and I still miss her so. So glad there’s this
    special stamp set available. Thanks as always for sharing your amazing
    creativity with us Becca!ReplyCancel

  • Bonnie WeissApril 16, 2012 - 7:25 am

    To have ever shared your life with a pet is a true blessing that only those of us who have done it can understand. And when it comes time to say good-bye, receiving a card like this one can mean SOOOO very much, Becca.ReplyCancel

  • lois skiathitisApril 16, 2012 - 7:41 am

    Beautiful card Becca, decorated so nicely those punches go so well together. Love the grouping of the flowers. That little stamped charm is so cute. Empathy is something most of don’t have, but strive for. Unless you happen to be in the same situation we can say we understand but we really don’t. A heart that empathizes is a wonderful thing. Beautiful work Becca. As always Becca, TFS!!! :-DReplyCancel

  • EileenApril 16, 2012 - 7:50 am

    Another beautiful card Becca and the Angel wings just finish it off for the reason it was made. You always put such a lot of thought into your cards and leave a bit of yourself within it.
    LOL EileenReplyCancel

  • ColleenB.April 16, 2012 - 8:30 am

    Beautiful, heartfelt card

  • AstridApril 16, 2012 - 9:01 am

    What a moving post and so, so true!
    The card is just beautiful, I love those delicate wings in the background. I am presuming that is vellum? It looks amazing!!ReplyCancel

  • conniecrafterApril 16, 2012 - 10:11 am

    Lovely layering of the dies, pretty colors and love the vellum wings and the tiny tag!ReplyCancel

  • Patricia T.April 16, 2012 - 11:51 am

    Although you may not experience what others have, your sympathetic expression is real, your love and concern for others is real, that is another gift God has given you. I just purchased this beautiful die cut recently, and want to use it to show off its beauty. You have given me a direction. Becca, thanks for all you do. You are truly an inspiration. It shows through your cards and through your words of expression. Hugs! Patricia

    P.S. I also recently purchased your Peg Bow Maker and I am enjoying the results of my beautiful ribbon bows. It makes for a beautiful finishing touch to a card. Thank You for making creating easier.ReplyCancel

  • Patricia T.April 16, 2012 - 11:53 am

    Your card is stunning! as always. TFSReplyCancel

  • Beth EllisApril 16, 2012 - 9:27 pm

    Oh, Becca! Yet another wonderful card! You continue to amaze me with your lovely work and your fabulous ideas! I have the bitty blossoms dies from Spellbinders but haven’t had a chance to try making them yet. NOW I am inspired. Thank you for the lovely blessings you bring to us on an ongoing basis.ReplyCancel

  • Beth EllisApril 16, 2012 - 9:29 pm

    Oh, one more thing! I failed to say that the wings, made of vellum and chalked I assume are so delicate! I will certainly “scrap lift ” this idea!ReplyCancel

  • BettyApril 16, 2012 - 11:46 pm

    So gorgeous Becca! Pets truly are part of the family.ReplyCancel

  • Marcie SmithApril 17, 2012 - 1:38 pm

    How are you? I miss your regular postings and am always excited to see you in my inbox. This is such a lovely card. I just received this spellbinder die last week, and have already used it several times. It is such a gorgeous frame, and really a nice large size. I participated in a tag swap and the theme was french country. It was perfect and I know that this will be one of those dies that I will use over and over again. I am so impressed with your sweetness Becca, that you extend to so many others. You are truely a kind soul and this card just says it all. Being an animal lover myself, it is hard to express just how attached you can get to them, and they to you. Sometimes I think they are more human then some actual humans. They definitely are wonderful and faithful companions and more loyal then most people. Have a wonderful week.

  • SusanApril 17, 2012 - 8:59 pm

    What a lovely card and a very sweet post. Anyone who has been loved by a dog knows the unbelievable loss when you must say good-bye.ReplyCancel

  • KelleyApril 18, 2012 - 11:03 pm

    Ok, I know I say this a lot but I just LOVE this card. How could I not? And I jsut love your desciptive word….wrecked. It says SO much….ReplyCancel

  • Caro PrescottApril 19, 2012 - 5:21 am

    Yet another beautiful peaceful card.ReplyCancel

  • vanessaApril 20, 2012 - 11:07 am

    Hi Becka,

    I would like to know how to pronounce your last name.
    You come up so often in conversation because of all
    the beautiful cards you make and nobody seems to
    know how to say your last name. I hope you don’t mind
    but it would be nice to set it straight right from the horse’s

    Thank you so much,

  • KelleyApril 21, 2012 - 7:07 pm

    Peach or pink, it doesnt matter! Both beautiful! Keep on making them!!ReplyCancel